Haven’t you ever wondered if your dreams meant anything? Are they simply expressions of your subconscious mixed with present day circumstances? Can they predict the future or help you make decisions? Does everyone dream?
I am no expert on dreams, but I am very interested on the topic and can offer you some insight into what I’ve heard and noticed about dreams throughout my life. Dreaming is probably the loveliest, most interesting present that has ever been given to the human race. But most importantly, dreams reveal, teach, and predict things about you and your life that is invaluable to our understanding of ourselves.
Okay, let’s answer some of your questions:
1. What Are The Most Common Reoccurring Dreams?
- Losing Your Teeth – you are anxious about your appearance or you feel powerless or you wish to be more connected to the divine or you have a sick family member or you are lying a lot or you will come into money.
- Flying – if you are flying with ease, you are on top of a situation, you have gained a new perspective and entered a different phase in life. If you are struggling to fly, it means that you are having trouble holding on to your power over something or someone. And if you are afraid to fly, it means you are afraid of a certain challenge and of success.
- Being Chased – coincidentally, this is my reoccurring dream theme – it means that you are anxious and running from a problem, which can be whatever you are dealing with in your waking life or a deeper emotion you fear within yourself like jealousy, greed, anger, or possibly love.
- Falling – this is an indication of insecurities, anxieties, and instabilities. You lost control of a situation in your waking life or you are failing at something. Freud says that dreams of falling mean that you are contemplating giving in to a sexual urge. hmmm. The only types of falling dreams I’ve personally experienced, which is also quite common, were in the first stages of sleep where I have usually get a sensation that I’m tripping and falling as my muscles spas. In any case, these types of dreams are considered “unGodly.” Okay…
- Being Naked – this means that you are ashamed of something or trying to conceal something. Or you’ve been recently caught off guard or you are afraid that people are on to you. You consider yourself to be a phony. BUT if you dream that you are proud of your nakedness, this symbolizes unrestricted freedom. If you are one of those people who dream that you are proud of your nudity, you have what they Jews call “Chutzpah.”
- Taking a Test/Exam – means that you feel you are being scrutinized by someone else. Or you feel like time is running out and an opportunity is fading. Or you fear not being accepted and becoming an outcast. Or it may be an indication that you feel unprepared for a challenge.
If you ask me, there are way too many “or‘s” in the interpretations of even the most common types of dreams. I’m not sure how much I believe all of these meanings as nobody can decide what each person’s dream means for sure, but I do find it strange that so many of us have these reoccurring themes. You’d think that out of the billions of other types of dream possibilities, why do most of us dream about only a handful of situations? Perhaps there is truth in these meanings, but we should probably use our dreamosaphoguses (a.k.a. our internal bullshit meters) to figure out if any of these meanings ring true.
2. Can Dreams Predict The Future?
I believe so. My mother has this weird intuition where she makes decisions and gains insight from meeting people in her dreams. The night before the September 11 attack on the World Trade Center, my mother had a dream that this large, Asian, wise-looking man in a crimson outfit hugged her and covered her head. As she explained it, compared to him, she was the size of a tea-cup dog, and when he covered her, he whispered, “Shhh, be quiet, they’re flying.” The next day, it was all over the news- two planes flew into the Twin Towers. This also happened to be the year that she mysteriously had the urge to move us from NYC to New Jersey. We were safely across the Hudson when the most terrible tragedy to ever hit the East Coast occurred.
And back when we were living in our NYC apartment, she had a dream of this sad-looking man in a golfer’s hat. In her dream, he would just sit around on the couch in our apartment looking sad. Later, our neighbor, who had lived in the building for over 30 years, showed us a picture of the man who used to live in our apartment. It was the sad-looking man from my mother’s dreams! Turns out he died there… That apartment was definitely haunted, but that’s a story for a different post.
Moreover, not everyone has the ability to remember their dreams and recognize their messages. You have to be sensitive to these types of things. I’m not sure exactly how you develop this sensitivity, but I’m guessing it has something to do with having an open, analytical mind.
3. How Can I Use What I Dream To Interpret My Future?
You can pay attention to the following objects/emotions in your dreams. The information you are about to read is taken from experience and knowledge I’ve picked up from different “sensitive” people I had the good fortune to meet.
- dogs – when you have dogs in your dreams, this is an extremely good sign. Dogs represent friendship. Dreams involving dogs indicate that you will gain a good friend, strengthen a current friendship, or a friend will surprise you.
- cats – this is a bad sign. If you have cats in your dream, it means that you will be betrayed, and that an enemy is lurking somewhere in the shadows. Watch your back. I like to pay attention to the number of cats in my dreams, should they appear, as I think it signifies the number of people to watch out for.
- spiders – this means that you will receive important news. I once dreamt of spiders and when I woke the next morning, I received a letter that I was granted a scholarship. I’m not sure if the news you will get after having a spider dream will always be good, but it will always be important.
- crying/sadness – believe it or not, this is a good sign. If you are crying in your dream because something you fear happens, it’s like you are getting it out of your system. It will most likely not happen in real life. If you wake up crying, even better -it’s a good sign that things are going to turn for the best.
- death of a loved one– when someone who you know is alive dies in your dream/nightmare, it’s a sign that the person will live a long life. Sure, it may be unpleasant to spend the night believe it’s true, but at least you’ll be comforted when you wake up that it won’t happen for a long, long time.
- dreaming of someone who is deceased – when a deceased person comes to you in your dreams, it means they are still around, and may be responsible for some of the good “coincidences” in your life. Conversely, if they didn’t like you, perhaps they may have something to do with the bad “coincidences” in your life. If so, see a priest immediately. Just kidding.
- marriage/love – if you dream that you are getting married or are super in love with someone in your dream, it means you will receive news that somebody you know or somebody you’ve heard of will die. Johanna from 10th grade once told me this and it is so true. I once dreamt that I was unexplainably head over heels for Luke Wilson at a frozen yogurt shop. I was completely smitten. I thought I was going to marry this man. On the way to school the next day, I was told that a friend of my grandma’s had a niece that had passed away earlier that morning. It was super weird.
4. What Do Sex Dreams Mean?
I want to take the time to tell you that sex dreams, while they are healthy to have, don’t really mean anything. You have sex dreams when you are going through puberty and when sex is on your mind quite frequently (cough, boys). It doesn’t really mean or predict anything will happen. The frequency of these dreams doesn’t say much either. Some people get these every night while others don’t.
For those of you who wish you had more sex dreams, you are probably wondering, how do I make sure that I dream about sex more often? It sure beats dreaming about death or cats. Honestly, I wish I knew. But there doesn’t seem to be a formula, at least that we know of, which guarantees that your dreams stay hot and heavy.
And for those of you who have these dreams a lot, rest assured that it is perfectly normal to have sex dreams. In fact, such dreams are encouraged because, unlike performing sex, dreaming about it protects you from unwanted pregnancy and diseases 100% of the time. So dream on.
5. Does Everyone Dream?
Yes, even cats and babies dream. Some people forget their dreams easily. This happens most to men. The deeper the sleep, the harder it is to remember your dreams. So does this mean that men are deeper sleepers? Maybe.